I have watched for years as customers have physically and verbally abused their children in the grocery store. For those of you who don’t live in Pittsfield, this is a common thing. My guess is that it is even common in many other areas. Every time I wanted to speak up and say something, I worried for my job. I recently quit my job, though, and I now feel comfortable openly addressing the “parents” who have done this time and time again. With that being said, I have written an open letter to them. If you are from Pittsfield, have seen this type of behavior, or are just a parent who agrees with what I have written, please share. Also, any and all comments are welcome. I think discussion is important to facilitate change. So here it is:
I use that term loosely because in my mind you are not parents; you are simply individuals that brought children into the world without any concept of the ramifications of your actions. You care more about yourselves than you do about the lives that you created. You walk around abusing, belittling, and neglecting those who depend on you because in your mind they are nothing more than a burden or indentured servants.
Day in and day out I watch as you drag them around the store by their arms, scream in their faces, and treat them like they are beneath you; you – the very same people who do not know how to properly present yourselves in public. You yell to people more than thirty feet away from you about personal issues that nobody wants to hear about, you are condescending and rude to those around you, and you clearly didn’t look in the mirror before you left your homes because if you had you would have seen that you look dirty and unkempt.
I, not being a parent, cannot attest to the difficulties that parents face. I can, however, understand that there is nothing easy about it from the outside looking in. I would even venture to say that it is probably one of the most difficult jobs there is. I’ve seen how much work my siblings have put into raising their children and I am in awe of the ways that both have developed as a result. While sometimes they complain and undoubtedly want to give up, they never treat their children the way that many of you treat yours. It is one thing to discipline a misbehaving child; it something else entirely to physically and verbally abuse your children, in a public setting no less.
Your children will become the product of their upbringing. Their actions will mirror your own and a chain of abuse and neglect will only continue and worsen throughout their lives until there is nothing left but broken human beings with the mental health and substance abuse problems that are sweeping this world. Some will get past the abuse; they will even go on to do great things in spite of everything you’ve put them through. Many, however, will engage in self-harm and fall victim to the voices you’ve put into their heads, telling them that they aren’t good enough to be loved, until they take their own lives.
I can already see it in so many of them; those who haven’t yet learned how to hide the emotional and physical scars that you have left on them. I look into their eyes and I only see the manifestation of everything that is wrong with not only you, but the world as a whole. I see sadness, neglect, and everything you’ve taken from them: self-worth, self-esteem, and the light with which they were born.
The fact is that if you are not prepared to raise your children with patience, kindness, and love, you are altogether unfit to be raising hamsters, much less human beings. Do yourselves and this world one of two favors:
Give your children their best shot with others who will love them unconditionally and provide the type of environment that children need
Tie your respective tubes.
Either way, we’re all better off.
Thanks for stopping by. Until next time…stay classy.